If You Fall in Love With the Idea, the Way Will Be Shown.

One of the most paralyzing things in life for me is fear of being less than perfect.  It’s something I didn’t realize for many years, and something I now work on daily.  Even my practice of not being perfect is often plagued by my attempt to practice it perfectly.  It can be exhausting.  So, when I first started hearing things like “take the leap, learn to fly on the way down”, or “say yes, then figure it out”, it made my head spin.  I thought I needed a perfect plan before I could even start to accomplish anything.  Seamless.  An answer to every situation and potential problem.  A thorough and extensive explanation of each minute step to take to get from Point A to Point B.

Plans like that though can be blinding, and keep me from seeing opportunities.  If I’m too wrapped up in my plan, it’s hard for me to see a better way.  And let’s face it, I’m wrong a lot.  So, I’ve been learning to be a little more relaxed and go with the flow.  I’m not going to lie, that’s a daily struggle for this Type A personality.  But, the more I practice, the better I get.  Imagine that!  Some of the best things that have happened in life so far, is when I got out of the way.  Now, that’s certainly not to say that it comes without work and effort.  But, it is true for me that if I remain too rigid in my thinking and my plan, I can miss out on some really kick ass stuff!

I love the phrase “If you fall in love with the idea, the way will be shown”.  Through the past few years of personal development reading, this idea has been a common thread, although it sounds counterintuitive.  Imagine the end result.  Visualize it.  Feel it.  Smell it.  Do it everyday.  Talk about it as if it’s already happened.  And start taking steps toward it.  Where I get messed up is when I obsess about which is the right step to take.  How do I get there?  What if this is the wrong step?  And that’s why many people never even start the journey.  That's why I never started in the past.  Not knowing how to take that first step.  Fearing that it may not be the right one.  They’re all the right step in the end, even if they’re wrong in that moment.  The key is to keep going until you reach your goal.  

A great example I heard on a podcast recently was about figuring out a labyrinth on a kid’s menu at a restaurant.  If you start at the outside and work your way in, there’s so many possibilities to take wrong turns and dead ends.  But, if you start in the middle and work your way out, it makes the decisions much easier, and you make far less errors in completing the puzzle.  This is a great analogy for your goals.  If you start with the end in mind, the decisions and steps you face along the way will make sense and be much easier to face on the journey.

Do you have an idea that you’ve been putting off because you haven’t come up with the perfect plan yet?  Have you put off doing something because you weren’t quite ready yet?  My advice is do it now!  Take the leap. Figure it out on the way down.  Say yes!  If you have an idea you can’t get out of your head, that you’re passionate about, that gives you life….don’t wait for perfect because it will never come.  By taking the first step, the next one will be shown!

Jessica Hauser